Why It Can Be So Hard to Love Other People


Have you ever noticed that there are few things in this life that don’t involve other people.  Sometimes I ask myself, “Why did God even bother to make man in the first place?”  Let’s face it, human beings are complicated and frustrating at times.  However, God clearly values relationship.  He is willing to deal with the mess of man so that He can have a relationship with man.

God is fierce about love.  The Bible is very clear about how important love is:  faith works by love (Gal. 5:6), love never fails (I Cor. 13), love cast out fear (I John 4:18), etc.  I believe many people’s breakthroughs are tied up in this issue.  We are to love God (simple….He’s perfect and is always for us) and love other people (ummm…..shouldn’t this depend on the person?!?)

30  And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy strength: this is the first commandment.  31  The second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.  There is none other commandment greater than these.   Mark 12:30-31

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel like loving other people can be too tall an order.  We all know that loving people can be difficult because people are flawed but for some of us, this commandment may seem even more complicated than necessary.  There are things you can do to make loving people more difficult on yourself.

Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.

Analyze the above statement.  Jesus was very clear:  love thy neighbor as thyself.  Perhaps why so many of us have failed to love our neighbors properly is because we have yet to truly love ourselves.  LOVE THYSELF.  If you don’t learn to love you, no one else has a shot.  I believe one of the most effective weapons satan has been able to use is the issue of self-esteem.

One of the greatest investments you can make for your own life is to learn to love yourself, just as you are.  God does — so why can’t you?  Yes, we all have work to do on ourselves — but until you get into agreement with God about yourself, you’ll have trouble accessing the power you will need to grow.  Learn to value yourself and all of your beautiful complexities and you’ll be surprised at how much easier it will become to see the value in other people — even difficult ones.